Yes, Mark Manson nails it again. This article from January is now a full fledged book and will be released next month. I already pre-ordered on Amazon. When your blog post starts like this, you know it’s going to be good. Hit the link at the bottom to learn more about the upcoming book.
Now, while not giving a fuck may seem simple on the surface, it’s a whole new bag of burritos under the hood. I don’t even know what that sentence means, but I don’t give a fuck. A bag of burritos sounds awesome, so let’s just go with it.
And this is the simple truth. I just received an email from Mark about the upcoming book and came back to this post. The timing of things happen for a reason, there’s times when you need reminders like these. Right about now, I need to remember these things, that too many irrelevant things that I cannot control or really don’t matter in the big scheme of things seem to be getting too many fucks from me. Majority of these things need the NGAF, or not give a fuck, so they can be reserved for the truly important things.
Because when we give too many fucks, when we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life fucks us.
There was a time where I myself, simply did not give a fuck about too many things and it served me well. I can’t recall but I think my last major non-fuckery was in 2006 when I decided to leave a certain telco. Packages were being offered and we were told on a Friday that we had to have a decision on Monday morning. I, in typical non-fuckery fashion dialed into work Monday morning and said I’m taking the package, to the silent astonishment of management. I simply didn’t give a fuck and it served me well. Went from an average paid IT operations dude working long hours to much greater things. I’ve somewhere forgotten how to do that.
WE ALL HAVE A LIMITED NUMBER OF FUCKS TO GIVE; PAY ATTENTION TO WHERE AND WHO YOU GIVE THEM TO
One of the best compliments I’ve ever received was for a job refrence. It simply went, “I know a mother-fucker that can get that shit done, he may tell you where to go from time to time, but he’ll get that shit done.” I got the job.
Now, the art of not giving a fuck doesn’t mean not caring and being wreckless, it’s about knowing what to care about, what’s important to you, what matters to you, what you cannot control, what you can control. It’s about allocating your fucks to the things that matter and not giving a fuck to the things that don’t matter or things you cannot change or control. And speaking of control, if you have to waste cycles controlling something, it isn’t meant to be, let it go, don’t give a fuck.
Most of us struggle throughout our lives by giving too many fucks in situations where fucks do not deserve to be given.